“The primary cause of disorder in ourselves is the seeking of reality promised by another.” ―Jiddu Krishnamurti
What is something you have or are pursuing, that other people say is worthwhile, but you haven’t found valuable? Do you continue to pursue it based on the promises of others?
this is already very difficult.
I want to be snarky and say something like “happiness” or “sanity”, then follow it up with a truth.
but what is the truth, in this regard?
it’s that for the most part, if something is not Important to me, I don’t pursue it.
let’s ponder on that which I do pursue, and ensure that are, indeed, important to me: somewhat-advanced education (Master’s Degree), useful social status and skills, a small group of friends, a job I like, mini-adventures, generally keeping busy, volunteering, writing, art, obscure knowledge — just to name a few. I purse these, yes (albeit some even less than I should); but more impotantly, they do matter to me. so we’re good there.
now let’s ponder on what other people pursue that I deem non-vital to me: well-advanced education (PhD), an expensive lifestyle, a high-paying job, business ownership, world travelling, excessive social status, fashion, etc. I don’t deem these things to matter to me — and so I do not pursue them.
so on the theme of self-reliance, I am not being led around by someone else’s stick’n’carrot.