Monthly Consumptions: June 2019

I’m going to try another regular posting series (HA!). it’s an very abbreviated list of my media consumables each month that were deemed interesting or noteworthy.

(delivery and formatting may change over time. but for now, I’ll just word dump stuff, lol.)

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Building Greater Self-Reliance: Day 07

31 Journaling Prompts for Building Greater Self-Reliance:  Day 07

Ultimately, we come to self-reliance by forgetting ourselves. It’s the kind of self-trust many new parents feel because they finally have this thing outside themselves that matters much more than themselves. We can access it by caring about anything properly (a project, a movement, an idea, a person, etc.).

Milton Mayeroff describes this dynamic in On Caring:

“Direction that comes from the growth of the other should not be confused with being ‘other directed,’ where this refers to the kind of conformity in which I lose touch with both myself and the other. Rather, by following the growth of the other, I am more responsive to myself, just as the musician is more in touch with himself when he is absorbed in the needs of the music.”

Ironically, no matter how physically self-reliant we become, if we never truly care for something outside of ourselves we’ll never become self-reliant.

What do you care most about? As in, what do you give yourself to most freely? How could you care for it a little more perfectly? How does caring for this thing outside yourself actually help you trust yourself more?

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Building Greater Self-Reliance: Day 06

31 Journaling Prompts for Building Greater Self-Reliance:  Day 06

“These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world.”

― Emerson

Self-reliance often means following our quiet, inner voice more faithfully. It means not just listening to what we say, or even to what we think, but paying more attention to what usually lies beneath our consciousness. Picasso himself knew that what he wanted to express wasn’t his own idea.

“To know what you’re going to draw, you have to begin drawing. . . . When I find myself facing a blank page, that’s always going through my head. What I capture in spite of myself interests me more than my own ideas.”

― Picasso

Picasso wasn’t aiming to express his ideas but ideas that seemed to be beyond him. He understood that self-reliance wasn’t about absolute control and knowing the answer ahead of time, but diving into the unknown and trusting himself to navigate.

Write about a time you listened to that inner voice, then a time you ignored it. How did each turn out? How did the conversations with your inner voice differ? How can you become better attuned to those subtle nudgings?

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LaPorte, Danielle – “Desire Map for Living”

Danielle LaPorte again, this time posing eight quick question-answer pieces she presents in a very recent collection of short videos (like, less-than-five-minutes kind of short) as part of an IGTV series entitled “Desire Map for Living”.

below are my personal musings, with a link to each video that expounds on the highlighted question. it’s not much, but I’m just trying to get posting again — so have just some fucking patience with me. 😉

1] Even Deeper Gratitude

What am I taking for granted?

  • my intelligence: because of my intelligence, I am able to make improvements in my life and avoid making horrible mistakes.
  • MN public transportation: it really is a life-saver between my times of inability to drive and my times of disinterest in driving. and it’s a great system up here; one of the best in the nation.
  • the Sun: You glorious thing, You. welcome back to my life. I haven’t gone out and fully enjoyed You just yet. my apologies.

2] What I Trust

What do you know to be true right now?

  • I will never run out of cat hair, thanks to Zero.
  • I am granted unconditional love from Brian, Mum, and Tiger.
  • I am also granted love from FatherPerson, JennaLee, Sheila, and (as best as he can) Zero.
  • I have thus far always gotten back Up, despite the number of times I had already been knocked Down.
  • I am presently and usually exhausted — but I am not absolutely, constantly exhausted.

3] Reframing

What do you want that you already have?

  • more time: I am simply mismanaging the time I already have.
  • control over/in my life: I can (at least somewhat) easily alter many things in it right now — via a change in jobs, increased volunteer work, finding new MeetUp groups, discovering new places on my own, et cetera.

4] Feeling Anticipation

What is something upcoming that is presently causing you negative anticipation?

  • the Project: I am presently anxious, self-doubting, prematurely regretful, and prematurely exhausted.
    • I want to be successful and find something that will make me happy in the long-run.
    • going into the Project with confidence would encourage these results.
  • the Visit: I am pessimistic and resentful.
    • I want to enjoy myself and see this as an opportunity and not a requirement.
    • I should change my focus and mindset approach.

5] Unpleasurable Feelings

Make a list of negative feelings you can recall from a past event, then eclipse them with their contrasting positive.

  • weak: strong
  • out of control: in control
  • helpless: capable
  • mad: containable
  • petty: appreciative and wise
  • unimportant: valued

6] Inner Child Exercise

What does your Inner Child need to feel in each of the following areas of life?

  • relationship and society: my Inner Child (IC) wants to make a difference to others, to help and be of service to others. the goal is not to then become important to those people — but it is a great bonus by-product.
  • body and wellness: my IC wants to run and play, be active and enjoy that precise moment of life.
  • livelihood and lifestyle: my IC is not very needy. it just wants enough to survive somewhat comfortably.
  • creativity and learning: my IC loves to explore and learn and play. IC loves going on great adventures, or even find solutions to problems close to home.
  • essences and spirituality: my IC is connected to all things. an omni-relationship with all forces of life encourages my IC to keep on trucking in its own life.

7] Superhero Exercise

How does your Inner Superhero need to feel in each life areas?

  • relationship and society: my Superhero (SH) is dedicated steadfastly to being useful and helpful to both others and itself.
  • body and wellness: my SH is strong and capable, yet still limber and embracing of the possible. my SH takes good care of itself, without fretting over the minor stuff.
  • livelihood and lifestyle: my SH is comfortable and happy. it does not need much. and when it does have a need, it fulfills it promptly and confidently, without shame or anxiety.
  • creativity and learning: my SH may not have all the answers, but it at least tries to locate them. ever growing, ever willing to change for the better, my SH advances consistently as if in an RPG.
  • essences and spirituality: via its connection with the “local” population, the surrounding life forces, and both its natural and its man-man environments, my SH is able to aid all involved compassionately and effectively.

8] Future Self Exercise

How is your Future Self already feeling in each life area?

  • relationship and society: my FS has a strong social group again at whatever location its living, but still holds on to the important ties from its past.
  • body and wellness: my FS is still working on my body and my health. it has not given up hope on getting and feeling better.
  • livelihood and lifestyle: my FS is doing things it enjoys in its free time and during its work time. it appreciates and values its present career, rather than just tolerates it.
  • creativity and learning: my FS is still such an information- and learning-junkie. constantly researching and sharing what it learn, my FS has really started making a difference in the lives of others.
  • essences and spirituality: that same connection with all things stands strong in my FS. it uses this bond to grow in itself and to assist with the growth of others.

“You don’t have to do it all.”

Jenny Lawson, the Bloggess, is amazing. and also so accidently timely.

I have been feeling like shit for not keeping up with this damned blog better. I was doing so well for a few weeks. and as usual I let it all fall apart.

then in comes the Bloggess with her amazing words of wisdom. I feel better. not good or just or right — but at least, better.

here’s what she said….

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“The in-between place you’re in. It’s real.”

this wouldn’t be the first time I’ve reposted something that originated from Danielle Laporte.

the following is from “The in-between place you’re in. It’s real.” and it’s very apt for my current place in life.

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Building Greater Self-Reliance: Day 05

31 Journaling Prompts for Building Greater Self-Reliance:  Day 05

“All failed companies are the same: they failed to escape competition.”

― Peter Thiel

“The dynamic [of competition] is not unlike a popularity contest in which everyone tries to win by being equal parts friendly, happy, active, and fun. Or an election campaign in which all the candidates try to be charming, serious, humble, and strong. Once everyone starts doing it, no one stands out.”

― Youngme Moon

To compete is to choose to play somebody else’s game. This can be a massive source of energy, but it’s also a dangerous game. The billionaire investor and founder of PayPal, Peter Thiel, said that the fierce competition in his college career nearly kept him from doing what he actually was meant to do. He later wrote in Zero to One, “All failed companies are the same: they failed to escape competition.”

When we’re locked in competition we tend to obsess on doing the same thing but faster, bigger, or cheaper. Competition can blind us to opportunities to truly distinguish ourselves.

In fact, the fiercer the competition, the more similar things get. Harvard Professor Youngme Moon writes in her book Different: Escaping the Competitive Herd that, “The dynamic [of competition] is not unlike a popularity contest in which everyone tries to win by being equal parts friendly, happy, active, and fun. Or an election campaign in which all the candidates try to be charming, serious, humble, and strong. Once everyone starts doing it, no one stands out.”

Put simply, Moon has found that, “The more diligently firms compete with each other, the less differentiated they can become.”

Even more often than businesses, individual lives are ruined by being too preoccupied with competition to look around. Where are you competing in your life that you don’t actually want to be (e.g., money, audience, position, possessions, looks, awards, travel, experiences etc.)? If you weren’t worried about winning that, what would you focus on?

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